Shame is the key to the unfolding of the self.
Shame is in the source of most of the disturbing and devious states that deny you living a full and balanced emotional life. Shame is a powerful, toxic, paralyzing, negative emotion with the capacity to destroy your inner world and paralyze your emotional intelligence
It is beyond guilt, beyond anger, beyond hate manifesting in a lethal self-hate, rejection of self that can only be tolerated and balanced by deep feelings of possession and no self-worth. It suffocates and dominates manipulating your truth, your reality, poisoning your connections to your very core self.
Blame says I did something wrong.
Shame says I am something wrong.
Shame lives and supports a worthless self.
Shame runs on empty, provides the ultimate target and resting for all wrongs, frustration, angers hurts your Self. Shame is a last resort of coping survival mechanism, the ultimate judgement court of last resort which disempowers self-disconnects destroys connection to self.
Shame provides a function and a support structure when no other is available or accessible.
When we can’t cope, can’t defend ourselves, shame permits us to withdraw to find one perpetuating solution that there must be something wrong with you that you are the cause, the problem and the blame. Beyond guilt and remorse, beyond justice or reason it is judge and jury and a death sentence to your Self finding the blame, lies in a worthless self.
Shame sacrifices your Self and your freedom, it is the ultimate stuck self. Your truths and your realities are overpowered. Shame is addictive and serves as an addiction. Shame provides a solution, provides you with a universal answer and ready available accessible identifiable target – Your Self.
Shame is devious, manipulative and dysfunctional, operating at conscious and unconscious levels. Shame destroys self-esteem.
It represents a last desperate mode of functioning, coping, holding it all together when all else has abandoned you and manipulates you to be dependent on shame, to hold it so tightly that you struggle to give up your shame, fight hard to hold on to it, rely on shame to cope and unconsciously seek it out in all your connections.
The invisible innocent Cobra like Snake of Shame wraps itself around you, choking your emotions, strangling your core self while shooting poisonous venom into your heart and mind.
And it graciously donates you its venom and poison, its hate, blame, guilt, anger as your own and leaves you shaming and blaming your Self for poisoning yourself and mirroring what a low life, worthless, shell you are to poison yourself.